THIS INSPIRATION OF THIS ARTICLE WAS OBTAINED THROUGH MY PARENTS 21ST ANNIVESARY TODAY. "Is romance a prime factor in choosing your life partner?’ Pose this question to anyone and you will be suprised to get a host of varied answers. For many, romance is the most essential element in choosing a life partner because two people involved in a relationship must have a physical bonding with each other in order to develop a  strong mutual understanding. In addition, they believe that a relationship without romance does not sizzle like a steak on a flat pan reacting with oil. On the other hand, others wish  to be endowed with the reality of love rather than the fantasy of romance. Being the practical down-to-earth person I am, the most fundamental key point that I think in choosing a life partner should always be based on the reality of love.

Karen Casey once quoted, “Truly loving another means letting go of all romantic expectations but rather fully accepting or even celebrating another ‘s personhood. This  simple yet powerful quote basically speaks about accepting the character of our life partner. However, romance does not reflect the character of an individual. For example, my girlfriend may be a very romantic person with a raging temper. If I judge her based on romance, she certainly fits the criteria of an ideal life partner but my marriage will lack peace in the future due to tempremental arguments and conflicts. Furthermore, romance does not speak the true volume of one’s listening skills and patience. There are so many beautiful girls who can cheer you up, laugh with you and enjoy the happy moments with you. Moroever, how many are actually willing to sit and listen to all your problems  with a great deal of patience and even offering comfort in times of adversity, my guess is maybe one in a twenty or none at all. Thus, romance is not a mirror like reality that can reflect the characteristics of our life partner.

Critics claim that if your life partner does not like romancing than there will not be a natural connection in the realtionship. This romantic chemistry between a husband and a wife is still obviously shrouded in vagueness. This is because sexual intamacy does not guarantee a commitment in a marriage as the principles of commitment are based on trust and courage. That’s why there is a subtle difference between reality and romance because kisses aren’t contracts and presents aren’t  promises. However, I wont deny the fact that kisses, hugs and ect are nice ways to show your loved ones that you care and worthy of their trust/respect. Furthermore, another vital aspect of intamacy is respect. Without respect, sexual intamacy is merely lust. This is another reason why romance is not a primary factor in choosing a life partner.

There is a famous saying that goes ‘love is not about money’. However, in this modern era of globalization, finacial stability is vital in a marriage. I do understand that this statement might sound very materialistic but we cannot deny the fact that no money no talk. How can we even plan a wedding or run a family without a stable income. In addition, a family will face a lot of tribulation and problems such as unnesscary arguments and ect. Hence, it is vital to choose a life partner that is finacially stable to support you because romance will ignore this facts but reality will prepare you for it.

In a nutshell, I strongly stress once again that reality is vital in choosing a life partner compare to romance. However, I am not saying that romance is bad. My point is, when we first grasp the true meaning of the reality of love in relationships, then romance will be sweet and more meaningful. If romance is our primary goal then the love might not last. For example, 30years down the road one can still say to his beloved wife “Honey your beauty had never faded despite your wrinkled skin” and that is true love. In life, having a balance of both the worlds is always better than wanting to have the best in each world.